Monday on My Mind January 26, 2015

Giving of Yourself

Are you altruistic??? Do you know what “altruistic” means??? According to, “altruistic” is defined as “unselfishly concerned for or devoted to the welfare of others“. Altruism is “the principle or practice of unselfish concern for or devotion to the welfare of others“.

How much of yourself do you give to others??? I don’t have much in monetary terms, but I try to give of my time, my skills, and my compassion to others. Try to think about some little kindness or goodness that you can give to a fellow human being sometime this week. It’ll make you feel good all over.

Take care all, blessed be, hugs!!! Pam

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Monday on My Mind January 19, 2015

Hiya!!! I’ve been thinking about HAPPINESS  this week.


I’ve been a lot happier lately and a big part of that is because I’ve been doing things that I love. Sewing, crocheting, volunteering, reading, spending time with the pups—all these give me pleasure. And I’m learning to weed out the negative things in my life. So yeah, I’m feeling much happier lately.

I did a search today for “What makes you happy”. And got some great resources from it. I checked about 7 or 8 hits and found that a lot of them came up with some common ideas. Family and good friends, expressing sincere gratitude, exercise, getting out in Nature, give—your things or your time—to others, own a pet, get involved in your community, meditation, live in the moment. These things showed up on most lists. Money was in there too—in opposite ways. One list said to put money low on your list, while another said money was needed for happiness. I can see both ways. You don’t want to be greedy and hanker after money above all else, but having enough money for your needs and some wants is better than being without.

Here are a couple of the articles if you’d like to read more:

50 things that make people happy
(this one is from a London paper, so there are a few British terms in the list)

10 Science-Backed Ways to Find Happiness in 2015

99 Things Proven To Make People Happier

And a couple of lists of things to make you smile:

51 Things That Will Make You Smile

32 Ways to Make Someone Happy Today

And a couple that are a little off the wall:

Things That Make People Happy

9 Counterintuitive Rules For Happiness

So there you have it, happiness and how to find it, and hopefully, keep it. Go smile at someone.

Now tell me, WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY???

Take care, blessed be, hugs!!! Pam

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Weekly Wishes #2 January 18, 2015

Hiya all!!! Hope you caught my post last Sunday where I’m now setting weekly goals. If not, check it out here. I set 3 goals that I have listed here:

1) Prepare Road to California block for Yahoo group Quilt_Makers_International.

2) Get the lace on 4 Haiti dresses.

3) Work on my medical binder.

My progress:

1) I got 2 blocks done, and they’re ready to mail now. Just have to wait until Tuesday for the Post Office to open.

2) I got lace pinned on 5 dresses, but not sewn on. The pinning takes the longest amount of time, so I’m counting this as a completion too.

3) Only did a little work on my binders this week, so not so good there. Didn’t get as much done on them as I wanted to.

So I’ll say I got 2 out of the 3 accomplished. I’m not going to have much time this week, as I train for my new job on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. Yep, I got the position at Burke Hospice and Palliative Care. It’s a weekend job, so I’ll have the weekdays free to do my other things—Burke Quilter’s Guild, volunteer at Thrifts and Gifts, sew, crochet, read, play with the pups, and other such goodies. I’m finding I’m happier by being busy, and that can only be a good thing. Just don’t wanna overbook myself. But I don’t think this job will do that. It’s not long hours like WalMart was, and it’s something that I think I will like doing, unlike the Super 8 job was. So if I can just make it through 3 days of training, I’ll be fine. Oh, have a doctor’s appointment Thursday morning too. It’s just for a regular recheck this time. No biggie.

Now for my goals for this week.

1) Sew up those 5 dresses that have the lace pinned on.

2) Finish a square for the Moogly 2015 CAL (crochet along). Check that out here, the Moogly Blog. I’ve started on the first square and am about halfway through it. I’d like to finish the purple/pink/buff square and start on the Christmas color square of it. Yep, I’m gonna try to do two afghans at once. Since it’s only one square every two weeks, I think I can handle that. Still continuing to work on Julien’s blanket too. Working on the last—I hope—strip now. Once that’s finished, I’ll be able to measure and see if I need to do anymore strips. Although I’m not setting that as a definite goal to complete, I will work on it some.

3) Get more done on the binders. I’d like to be able to set my goals up in them as I go along too. I’ll do a post on how I’ve got them set up, hopefully in a week or two.

I think that’s enough for this week, considering I’ll be working 5 days. After this week, it should be a lot easier. I’ll be linking up with The Nectar Collective Monday night. Thanks for checking in, have a great night and holiday. Take care, blessed be, hugs!!! Pam

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Busy week January 14, 2015

Hiya!!! Yep, it’s been a busy week so far, and tomorrow will be no exception. Monday morning was Therapy Day at Burke Quilter’s Guild,  and we were working on string blocks for patriotic/military quilts. I didn’t take anything with me, just went to help out where needed, So I ironed a lot of fabric, with a leaky, not-very-hot iron. But I enjoyed the morning and seeing the ladies. And collected a HUGE bag of scraps for Haiti toys. Barbara, we gotta discuss these soon. I wanted to go to the library’s movie Monday evening, but it was for middle and high school kids, so shoot. And it was an X-Men movie too. Double shoot. LOL!!!

Health Issues

Tuesday morning I woke up with—guess what—another UTI!!! I got ready and went on into Thrifts and Gifts, felt progressively worse and called the doctor’s office. I saw Burt around 4 and he prescribed Septra DS for 8 days. Also added the estrogen cream that I never did get OK’ed from Dr. Theo’s. I have called Dr. Theo’s office about the InterStim device, just waiting to hear back from them. They have to get in touch with the company’s rep and set everything up.

After I left the Burt’s office, I grabbed a bite to eat and went to the Morganton library. It was adult movie night, and I watched “Guardians of the Universe.” It’s a cute movie, would love to have the soundtrack. The good guys prevail and the bad dude gets blown away. Opps, sorry if you haven’t seen it before. It was a very light fare, but good overall. I meant to get up this morning and go to Needlework in the Morning at the Valdese branch of the library, but overslept. I’m finding it harder and harder to get up in the mornings. Even when I get to bed by midnight, that 8 o’clock alarm seems to be too early. My body just seems to need that 10 sleep anymore. Oh well, gotta get up in the morning around 7, so I’ll be heading to bed soon.

Tomorrow is fasting labs at the doctor’s office at 9 AM. Then I’ll come back down to Thrifts and Gifts until 1 PM. I didn’t realize I had an eye exam until I got the reminder call on Tuesday. Good thing they did call. They didn’t give me an appointment reminder when it was set up, and I forgot to put it on my calendar at the time. Then back to Thrifts and Gifts until 5 PM, if I’m not at the eye doctor’s too late.

I discovered something new from a bloglovin post from a blog that I follow on there:

Welcome to Weekly Wishesa personal goal setting community started by The Nectar Collective where you can share your upcoming dreams and connect with other goal-setters. Join us and add a link to your own goal-oriented blog post! It’s a great way to make new friends from around the world and gain some motivation to achieve your weekly aspirations.

I think I’m gonna link up with them, even though I’m a couple days behind. So my goals for this week, now through Sunday, are as follows:

1) Prepare Road to California block for Yahoo group Quilt_Makers_International. This is a learning/teaching group that I joined at the end of the year. Our first assignment is to prepare a 12″ block—Road to California—and send it to the group moderator. She will then get the blocks to an instructor to see where each person needs to make improvements. We’ll get group teachings as well as individual pointers. I’m looking forward to it.

2) Get the lace on 4 Haiti dresses.

3) Work on my medical binder.

That should keep me busy, after tomorrow, which will be busy enough. I’ve added the Weekly Wishes button to the right side of my blog, if you’d like to join in. May be a great way to meet some new friends.

That’s about it for tonight. I’m gonna read a few more emails, check my glucose, blood pressure, and heart rate, take my meds and Lantus, then off to bed. Have a great night all. Until nest time. Blessed be, hugs!!! Pam

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Monday on My Mind January 12, 2015

Hiya all!!! Today I’m trying something new. Hopefully something that will wake up this blog and get you to thinking.

I don’t go on Facebook much anymore, just got to be a major waste of time. Oh, I still check in once or twice a week, but not several times a day like I used to. And some of the best things on Facebook, IMHO, are UpWorthy posts. I have collected a few and want to go a bit more in depth about some of them. The one I’ve chosen for today is about Ash Beckham. You can see this post here, and check out Ash’s website here.

First of all, I consider myself to be a very non-prejudicial person. I have always lived by the standard “Live and let live.” It has evolved into more of the Wiccan rede “An harm ye none, do what ye will.” With my emphasis on the “harm ye none” part of the wisdom. I believe that we are here to help one another and should, in no way, place ourselves above one another. And in listening to Ash Beckham’s speeches, I agree that we all have a closet at some point or other in our lives. The trick is learning how to come out of that closet with courage and dignity. She has three objectives to get across, and I’m quoting from her website and speeches:

Her message is simple, “we aren’t that different”.
Her approach is frank, “mean what you say”.
Her goal is humble; help others recognize the power of empathy, respect and conversation.

She states that we should

#1. Be Authentic. Be your true self, we shouldn’t have to conform to the standards of others.

#2. Be Direct. Be honest, don’t beat around the bush when you’re trying to connect with others. Give them a chance to know what is going on with you and your life, your feelings.

#3. Be Unapologetic. There is no dishonor in being the person that you were born to be. You may want to apologize for things that you have done, for things that have happened, but don’t apologize for being who and what you are.

I lived in a closet that was extremely transparent for most of my adult life without knowing what that closet was called. I am bipolar, and it has played a big part of who I was-and still am at times-throughout my life, since I was about 15 years old. I have hurt people’s feelings-important people in my life-without meaning to. I have spent large amounts of money that I didn’t have to spend, and have paid that price too. Am currently paying that price again. I have been on a merry-go-round of medications that work and don’t work. And, most importantly, I wish I had never been diagnosed. The meds leave me numb, at times with no more capacity for feelings than a rock on the ground. I somewhat function, but at what cost??? There are people who mean a great deal to me, who I would miss dearly if they were no longer in my life, but I don’t “feel” for them the way I used to.

But that was my closet and I’m out of it now and I digress. The closet that Ash refers to is the more well known closet of the LGBT community. She wants not only tolerance but acceptance from all for all. As she asks, is it enough to allow a couple to come to the prom, or do we welcome them and not stand and whisper about them??? In one of her speeches she states, “”My closet is no different than yours, or yours, or yours,” pointing to random people in the crowd. She goes on to say:

Sure, I’ll give you a hundred reasons why coming out of my closet was harder than coming out of yours, but here’s the thing: Hard is not relative. Hard is hard. Who can tell me that explaining to someone that you just declared bankruptcy is harder than telling someone you just cheated on them? Who can tell me that his coming out story is harder than telling your 5-year-old that you’re getting a divorce? There is no harder. There is just hard.
We need to stop ranking our hard against everyone else’s hard to make us feel better or worse about our closets and just commiserate on the fact that we all have hard.

Whether it is being gay, being straight, being bi-gender, being rich, being poor, being black, being white, being Asian, being smart, being mentally challenged, being tall, being short, being Christian, being an atheist, being Pagan, we are all just being. We all have a closet that we experience in one way or another. Why can’t we just accept that we are different and care for one another. We are all allotted one life and need to live it by embracing our fellow human beings and love to the utmost.

Ash also talks about the use of the word “gay” as being a derogatory word. And yes, I agree, we have made it that. We speak of things as being “so gay” when we’re not sure of their meaning, or when we want to belittle them. Should the word “gay” be made to feel as uncomfortable as the words “nigger”, “retard”, “cripple”, or “faggot”??? Those words are said much too often to hurt or defile, and I’m glad to say that they do turn my stomach to hear them. I may be adding another little word to that list.

Please leave me your thoughts. Remember these are only my thoughts and opinions. And I am entitled to them. Take care (of yourself and each other). Talk to ya soon. Blessed be, hugs!!! Pam

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